Controlling Pattern

Interpersonal Behavior

You may try to control others behavior and situations

It may be important to be the one in charge of what happens.

You may be competitive and adversarial.

Winning may be very important in a conflict or debate.

You may not fully recognize the importance of other people’s needs, feelings, perceptions, etc.

You may think you know the way things should be and try to convince others.

You may be demanding. You may expect to get your way

Organizational Behavior

You may try to control or set the agenda for the group.

You may compete with the leader for power.

You may do your best to move up the power hierarchy in an organization.

When you are the leader, you may run things from the top.

Your main goal for your organization may be winning the competition

Societal Behavior

You may believe that your political opinions are right and people who see thing differently are either bad or ignorant and therefore need to be educated and led

You may support leaders who are powerful and competitive and will stand up to the rest of the world

In elections, you may be most concerned with winning

You may believe that your culture is the best and others should become like yours

In economics, you may want your country to be the most competitive

In science and technology, your goal may be to control nature for human ends

Motivation

You may try to control others in order to protect yourself from being controlled.

You may try to control others to protect yourself from being judged, attacked, intruded on, or violated.

By being in control, you may hope to get love, acknowledgement, caring, or acceptance that you didn’t get as a child without having to be vulnerable in the process or risking rejection.

You may want to be gain power as be a way of defending against underlying feelings of deficiency.

You may try to control your world as a way of controlling your inner life because you are afraid of internal chaos and fragmentation.

You may try to control your world as a way of protecting against disaster or danger

You may want to control the definition of reality in order to defend against self doubt.