Vulnerable

I am open emotionally to pain and need.
I am willing to show this to others and to ask for support or help

Self-supporting

I can nurture and take care of myself. I am grounded.

Pattern

Behavior/Attitude

Conscious Statement

Unconscious Motivation

Needy

Over-react to loss. Feel lonely, incapable of making it on my own.

I am unlovable.
I feel empty inside.

Dependent

Have a hard time being alone.
Pull for or demand much caring and support.

I need you.

If I can get you to care for me, I will be safe and whole.

Need-denying

Defend against feeling or showing needs or vulnerability

I don’t need very much.
I can take care of myself.
I have it together

My needs are bad.
It is dangerous to be vulnerable.
I will be rejected if I need things.